The mother-in-law told The Bug that “all babies come from God”. My child wasn’t satisfied with that answer, especially after SEEING pregnant women so she asked me and I told her the real deal, in honest terms she could understand. She’s 4 years old, not mindless.



The mother-in-law told The Bug that “all babies come from God”. My child wasn’t satisfied with that answer, especially after SEEING pregnant women so she asked me and I told her the real deal, in honest terms she could understand. She’s 4 years old, not mindless.

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College is viewed as a necessity, yet priced as a luxury.

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even if/when it doesn’t work out, there’s still so much to gain from the experience of loving another person. but I suppose that’s just a different life perspective…

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Conversation with my very religious mother

  • Me: did you know that it is a sin to where that shirt and you could go to hell?
  • Mom:
  • Me: I mean it has mixed fabrics.
  • Me: According to the bible, that's a sin.
  • Mom: show me where it says that
  • Me: levictus 19:19
  • "'Keep my decrees.
  • “‘Do not mate different kinds of animals.
  • “‘Do not plant your field with two kinds of seed.
  • “‘Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material.
  • Mom:
  • Mom:
  • Mom: well just because it says that doesn't mean you can say its a sin and we'll go to hell
  • Me: so why are people doing that with homosexuality

the statement, “your feelings are always valid”?

seems to usually be interpreted as “because my feelings are valid, this makes anything I say or do, acceptable”. this is not a truth but there are lots of us who use our valid feelings as an excuse to pardon our extreme, invalid reactions/responses.

yes, we will always have a right to feel whatever we want, no matter how nonsensical it is to others. however, it never gives us a green light to do/say whatever we want. if that were the case, I could murder everyone I don’t like or that I FELT crossed me and there would be no consequences to suffer because my anger IS valid. domestic violence of any kind would become okay because…feelings. sexual harassment would be acceptable because…feelings. busting windows out, keying cars, and flattening tires would be some of our favorite past times because…feelings. there would be no need to fight against racism, prejudice, and discrimination because…feelings.

"my feelings are valid" is sometimes hurled at others because we want them to FEEL what we feel. there is no guarantee that people will automatically mirror our feelings, no matter how close we get or how long we’ve known someone. it can be the hardest thing for some of us to move beyond because we want to know why others don’t see things from our perspective…when it’s sometimes as simple as, because we’re different.

the minute we look to others to validate our feelings, no matter how sane or crazy they might appear, we’re allowing space for someone to invalidate them as well. it also leaves a growing chasm for others to emotionally terrorize us in the same manner we’re attempting. don’t know too many people who enjoy constant badgering about why feelings aren’t aligned or the same.

so the statement “your feelings are always valid”, starts to carry more weight when it’s adjusted to “your feelings are always valid to you”. it sends an even bigger message that clearly shows we’re okay with how we feel regardless of who agrees or disagrees.

You Aren't Marrying Kevin Hart. Ever.

  • The Bug: What you doing, mom?
  • Me: Minding my business.
  • The Bug: Let me see! *pulls hand down so she can view my phone*
  • Me: Since you want to be nosy, look who's getting married. *shows her my Instagram timeline*
  • The Bug: *highly exaggerated gasp* WHO IS SHE? SHE CAN'T MARRY KEVIN HART! I'M SUPPOSED TO MARRY HIM. He was supposed to be my boyfriend, mom.
  • Me: Inappropriate. 1, you're 4 years old and he's a grown ass man. 2, I keep telling you that you're too young for a boyfriend. Get over it.
  • The Bug: I don't like her.
  • Me: She doesn't even know who you are and again, you're 4. *laughs*
  • The Bug: That's not nice, mom.
  • Me: Shouldn't be so nosy.





Because you DEMANDED IT, more stunning art from Mshindo Kuumba!

This is beautiful


Wow wonderful!

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Me and The Bug

“To be a happy person, one has to drop all comparison. Drop all these stupid ideas of being superior and inferior. You are neither superior nor inferior. You are simply yourself! There exists no one like you, no one with whom you can be compared. Then, suddenly, you are at home.”
— Osho  (via senyahearts)

was once told I’m arrogant because I don’t compare myself to others; still laugh at that grossly incorrect statement.

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How Active Do We Want to Be?

Since I was a little kid, I’ve always befriended and stood up for the underdog. I’ve become an outcast on many occasions due to defending others. I regret not one moment of helping anyone though; it’s always been a genuine expression of compassion for my fellow human. There was a brief moment of time when I withdrew from what came natural because I’d grown tired of helping people who turned out to be ingrates. Had to remind myself that helping others isn’t about ME so when unappreciative people pop up, it should be considered part of the territory. Instead of allowing that to deter me from helping, reflecting on all of the grateful people kept me wanting to give/help when I can, as much as I can.

A friend mockingly started calling me The Activist 7 years ago. Their reasoning behind the nickname was “you’re always standing up for someone else and attempting to defend people’s rights”. Every time they called me The Activist, it angered me; not because I consider activism to be something negative but because actively choosing to care about others interests as much as my own was being joked about. 

This wasn’t the first time I was “made fun of” for giving a shit about other people whose voice wasn’t as loud as mine, was terrified to speak up, or just didn’t have faith that saying anything would make a difference. Any person I’ve taken the time to acquire knowledge about that assisted in liberating groups of people, all possessed this inherent trait of wanting to be of service to others, whether they knew them personally or not. So it confused me that these same people claiming to appreciate what leaders of the past have done, tell people today that they’re wasting their time to care about other people this much. 

It made me understand why we don’t have VISIBLE leaders today fighting for our human rights, that we can acknowledge on a global scale. People ask why there are no Dr. King’s, Malcolm X’s, Rosa Park’s, Shirley Chisholm’s, Angela Davis’, etc. My questions are, what do we think these people are supposed to look like? Are we so intoxicated by the glamour of what people are supposed to look like that we’re missing what people actually ARE? Because there ARE people in the world who are doing more than the average person to get others involved and interested in being better humans. There ARE people who want to rally others to give a bigger fuck about our rights that our government clearly states we are allowed to have but oddly try to prevent us from having. Those people helping each other in Ferguson are a great example of actively caring enough to defend and be of service to others. 

Instead of making fun of those who stand up and say something, arguing about how people contribute and what they’re contributing, being pessimistic and saying none of this really matters, would it hurt to think and do the opposite? Enough of the same people doing the right thing WILL make a difference and cause movement that only seems like a dream, right now. 

All of our past leaders started out with an ideal they chose to fight for and gained the respect and support of others. Their beliefs grew on a vast scale and it got national attention. It took some truly awful things happening before the government took notice and said something HAD to be done in order for us to move forward in a positive manner or things were going to continue to get worse. We’re back in that same situation today and it’s going to take some people who are willing to fight, stand up to our government, and suffer moments of unrest and lack of peace. Pretending this stuff isn’t happening to retain temporary sanity and peace of mind is a band-aid. 

But what do I know? I’m “The Activist”, remember?