A wise person knows when and how to make the exception to every rule… A wise person knows how to improvise… Real-world problems are often ambiguous and ill-defined and the context is always changing. A wise person is like a jazz musician — using the notes on the page, but dancing around them, inventing combinations that are appropriate for the situation and the people at hand. A wise person knows how to use these moral skills in the service of the right aims. To serve other people, not to manipulate other people. And finally, perhaps most important, a wise person is made, not born. Wisdom depends on experience, and not just any experience. You need the time to get to know the people that you’re serving. You need permission to be allowed to improvise, try new things, occasionally to fail and to learn from your failures. And you need to be mentored by wise teachers.
Legendary psychologist Barry Schwartz, author of the enormously stimulating Practical Wisdom: The Right Way to Do the Right Thing, on our loss of wisdom.
my drama, my karma
my love my life, dear mama
the war’s I’ve fought, scars that I’ve garnered
the hustle, I got that honest from my father
mix me with violence, blend me with peace
combine me with hate and I can’t face defeat.
Everything that needs to be said has already been said. But, since no one was listening, everything must be said again.
Jazmin Sisters - You
#OppressedMajority French short #FILM (11min) about real everyday sexism women experience. turns the tables by showing a man ‘walking in the shoes’ of a woman, experiencing humiliation, risks, being undermined and harassment. everything from being treated as if he’s incapable of making decisions, to being sexually assaulted, down to being blamed for the sexual assault because of what he had on. can be found on #YouTube #ART #EleonorePourriat
sidebar: I’ve had someone say to me “I should be talking to your husband” over something minute as what fragrance to use in the car after it’s been detailed. antiquated thinking never seems to go out of style.
This Powerful Video Shows Men What It Feels Like To Be Subjected To Sexism And Sexual Violence
i really like this. it’s got the microagressions down in a lot of ways, also things like body language and posture? i recognized the men doing things and speaking in ways that women are trained to and it was awesome to see. also things like all the men being nurses or old secretaries in the police station and the hospital. there was also a moment of white feminism, which was interesting to see translated. basically, i like this a lot because it’s a pretty faithful mirror.
#Repost from @the13thfl
Aunt Chloe: A Journal of Artful Candor by a compilation of #Writers
“Aunt Chloe is a journal for people who have reclaimed the spaces denied them by cultural and historical tyranny. She belongs to any of us who have been pushed out of the spotlight,yet through art, literature, and dialogue have re-chosen where we belong.” #13thfl #LiteraryArt #ART
the girl/woman body
it bothers me that a thin, less curvy female human can wear a tank top & shorts and it solicits few to no inappropriate comments from male humans BUT a thicker, more curvaceous female is called a slut for wearing the EXACT same outfit. of course there are males who’ll tone down the words they use. so you might hear “inappropriate”, “her clothes are too small”, and/or “she doesn’t need to wear that” from less brutish men. it still has the same affect of “she wants the negative attention, otherwise she wouldn’t have it on”, “only whores dress like that”, and “she deserves to get raped”.
BECAUSE SHE HAS ON SHORTS AND A TANK TOP?
it is even more disheartening to hear other female humans cosign that fellow females SHOULD cover up if they have more voluptuous bodies. it sends the message that something is wrong with a body type that exceeds a certain size and shape. so what happens when you have a daughter who has a body like this? do we shame our little girls into the thought process of hiding themselves because of how other people view their body? or do we let them know that this is a part of being different and you’re to still love yourself OPENLY & FREELY, like everyone else is allowed to? that you can LIKE what you see in the mirror?
I went through this as a child and I hated my body because of the constant messages being sent to me from the male humans I was surrounded by (my father and grandfathers being the main ones). I wore baggy clothes to hide a body I didn’t ask for and constantly told I couldn’t wear certain things my sister wore because my butt & legs were too big. being comfortable in my clothes quickly translated to either “be smaller” or wear oversized clothing that made me look tacky and unkept. it was the same body my mother had so I used to ask myself if her body was “wrong” too. I was all kinds of confused when my mother would get compliments. my father wasn’t satisfied unless I was covered up to the point that HE felt comfortable, which often times made ME uncomfortable.
I see so many fathers my age doing the exact same thing with their daughters and it breaks my heart. they don’t realize that they’re contributing to a thought process that says “wait for a boy or man to validate what you should look like & what you should wear”. as fathers, are you looking at your daughter as a child or how you think boys and men will perceive her? are you thinking about how you looked at her mother when you first laid eyes on her? please don’t put that off on innocent girls who are still learning to be comfortable with the body that they have.
even when it’s posed as “I’m trying to protect you”. find different ways to protect and communicate with your daughters versus making them feel like they’ve done something wrong by growing the natural things on their body they’re supposed to as female humans. our daughters don’t stay little girls. they become women and the future mothers of other little girls.
the onus isn’t on mothers to “not raise sluts”. clothing isn’t the key to being sexually promiscuous. parents have to resolve to do better. teach boys to stop viewing women as meat, possessions and something to be controlled & devoured. stop teaching girls that their bodies are something to be controlled by others. if some skin is showing on a little girl or a woman, so what. any respectful human being isn’t going to associate bare arms and legs with an immediate beacon to attract sexual commentary from others.
we NEED to teach our children THAT. it doesn’t hurt to stop passing down harmful teachings/perspectives that were fed to us from our parents and adults around us. we can understand it’s wrong so it does become our responsibility to make these changes.
my daughter will not be ashamed of any part of herself, inside or out. regardless of her size or shape. I’m choosing to end the antiquated bullshit on my end.
kids love the best!
- The Bug: mom, I'm going to listen to my heart.
- Me: what does your heart say?
- The Bug: that it loves you very much.
- Me: my heart loves you very much too.
- The Bug: good and I love you too.
- Me: I love you too.